• CELEBRATING BUFFALO TOGETHER
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    CELEBRATING BUFFALO TOGETHER
    #TOTALLY BUFFALO

 

My house was a mess, I had so much to do – but, suddenly it didn’t matter.

Well, if there’s one good thing about being an ‘older’ mom or a mommy a second time around -it’s that you have the wisdom to know the little things DO NOT MATTER.

I was looking around today – and honestly, my house is trashed. Like, it’s a mess. Oh, it drives me nuts. It does.

Our dishwasher died the day before Thanksgiving – so there may or may not have been a few too many dishes in the sink. And well, it was a domino effect.

I was mortified when the men came to install a new dishwasher this afternoon.  Honestly, I forgot they were coming.

So, once they left, I was looking around at what to tackle first.

The dishes?

The paperwork?

Write a story for Totally Buffalo?

Return calls?

Work on a 20-page paper due for one of my graduate classes?

As I was trying to decide – I saw this sweet little baby girl looking at me.

She had me at, “mommy”.

Totally.

So, there I was having a tea party with Ella this afternoon when I had so many other things to do.  We played and then snuggled up – she fell asleep curled up next to me. I opted to sit and watch her sleep. And it was glorious. Gosh, she is a beautiful baby girl.

I knew the dishes would still be there.

I knew the paperwork would be, too.

I knew it was all just stuff –

I knew that Ella will only be two years old for one more day. So, I made the decision to stay right where I was.

Best decision I’ve made in a while.

It goes fast, man.

Too fast.

Savor it. I sure did today. 🙂

Mary Friona

Mary Friona

Following my heart with my husband and four daughters. An Emmy Award winning journalist lucky enough to work in television & radio for 20 years - seeing wonderful places, meeting great people and telling their stories.

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    Amy Lupiani Reinholz

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    I feel the same way. I have twins that are going on 9, and I never thought I’d have the chance to do it again. Starting over with a new baby, almost 6 months old, has been wonderful. I am trying to soak up every second between running the twins to their activities and teaching classes for my career. I can’t keep up with everything, but I find myself letting him take his nap on me because I know that before too long this time will be over.

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      Mary Friona

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      Yep… I wish I would have learned this the first time around! 🙂 Enjoy every single second!

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    Betty Leistner

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    I learned this lesson with my grandchildren. I try to maje every minute with them enjoyable and memorable. I have Stage 4 esophageal and chest wall cancer so I know how precious every moment is. For me life is about creating memories. I spend as much time with people that make me laugh and feel good. You are absolutely doing the right thing. Enjoy that sweet little angel.

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    Sheila

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    So beautiful so true! ❤️ Happy Birthday to your beautiful Ella.

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    aileen pawlowski

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    I agree Mary. Your topic reminded me of a column that the late Erma Bombeck wrote regarding this same subject. I can’t quote it verbatim, but remember her writing that her kids when grown didn’t remember how the floors shined, or neatness around them. They reminisced about the fun things she did with them.
    This always stuck in my memory, I probably read it in the 1970’s.

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