Don’t judge a person by her handbag; the outside may be beautiful – but what about the inside?

I have anxiety.

It is not fun, but it is also not crippling. Not for me, at least.

I’ve learned over time how to best deal with my angst. I have the tools to find a way to put it in the back of my mind and move on. Thankfully.

Now, don’t get me wrong – I’ve had some pretty serious anxiety attacks. One of them was actually on live television.

The feeling of impending doom can be paralyzing.

I’ve been thinking over the last day or so about anxiety, depression and other mental health issues. I was, like most folks, dumbfounded by the apparent suicide of fashion icon, Kate Spade.

I’ve read many comments asking how something like that can happen to someone like that. Seems absolutely absurd. Or does it?  Kate Spade obviously was very troubled. How could WE have known that? How could we – those of us simply looking in – have known?  We couldn’t possibly have known.

It goes back to the fact that you NEVER know what someone else is going through.

It’s kind of like a Kate Spade bag.  I have one. It’s red. It’s gorgeous. But, it’s all zipped up and you have no way of knowing what is on the inside of my Kate Spade purse.  Maybe it’s neat and clean. Maybe it’s a total disaster. Maybe I’ve thrown stuff inside – baby toys, snacks for the kids, change – maybe anything and everything is just tossed in there haphazardly.

Have you looked inside your purse recently?  Have you unpacked your baggage lately? Have you talked to your loved ones about the insides of their purses or wallets? Or hearts? Or minds?

There’s something about a loss like that of Kate Spade. It leaves us wondering.

But we should also let it remind us that money, success, power – they mean nothing in the grand scheme.


They don’t give us peace. They just don’t.

We need to take time for our mental well being. We need to stop judging others based on theirs. We need to be open to change. We need to be kind to others because we have no idea what they are going through.

Their Kate Spade bag in hand – they may seem to have it all, but that is certainly not always the case.

There is always help. If you are struggling, there is always help. Call a friend. Call a family member. Call a doctor. Or call a hotline for help – 1-800-273-8255.  You don’t have to feel alone because you are not.





Mary Friona

Mary Friona

Following my heart with my husband and four daughters. An Emmy Award winning journalist lucky enough to work in television & radio for 20 years - seeing wonderful places, meeting great people and telling their stories.

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    Loveeee you ❤


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