Great news: Turns out our kids don’t expect us to be perfect!!

Anybody who knows me – and many who don’t – know how stressed I’ve been about making my daughter’s Halloween costume.

Emma is obsessed with space. So she wanted to be Saturn – and well, you can’t buy planet costumes. Believe me, I tried. I scoured the web, Halloween shops, Target – no Saturns. Nothing.

So I did what any good mom would do – I tried to talk her out of it. I gave her a million ideas. She didn’t budge.  No way. So, Saturn it was.


I went on Pinterest.

I’m not a fan.

Don’t get me wrong, the creations on the site are amazing. Those crafty people, so talented.  It’s just not me.  I’m not crafty. Like, at all.

But my kid wanted to be Saturn.  So I searched and found some inspiration but there really wasn’t much there. Emma told me exactly what she wanted and I went shopping. I went to craft stores and spent an afternoon in Hobby Lobby.

I bought a bunch of stuff. I’m not gonna lie, I could have bought a few costumes for what I spent on pieces and parts for this costume. Truth.

I went home and worked on it. Emma was very specific about what she wanted. Very.

I finished it – literally – while she was at school on Halloween. She wore a different costume to school because the Saturn ring would have been a challenge.

She came home and I showed it to her. I was a nervous wreck. I thought she’d hate it.

She. Loved. It.

She told me it was just what she wanted.

She literally loved it.

It wasn’t good.

It hardly looked like Saturn.

It hardly looked like anything.

But Emma – my 5-year-old sweet girl – loved it.

We had the best time trick-or-treating with our entire family. Me and Scott with all of our girls – Lex, Maria (and RJ), Emma and Ella plus my niece, Jamie.  It was a fabulous time. Emma kept saying, “Trick or Treat – I’m Saturn.”

It was great.

I have to say – my Facebook friends really helped me out – with words of encouragement on this. Good to see that with all the mommy shaming that exists.

I still don’t like Pinterest – but I know that one person’s Pinterest fail is another’s treasure.  More importantly, I know that our kids don’t need – or expect – perfection.

It’s fuzzy and hard to see – but, this is the only pic I got while she was trick-or-treating. The ring glowed in the dark. 🙂

Thanks goodness for that!!

We may not have all the answers and we may spend way too much time doubting our parenting skills; wondering if we’re doing okay – and that’s fine. But if you really want to know how you are doing as a mom or dad – just take a look at your children; watch them. There’s your answer!

We are all good at some things; not so great at other things. But, I’ll tell you what – showing our kids that we are willing to try – to do our best – for them – is a great lesson for them and a reminder of how much we love them.



Mary Friona

Mary Friona

Following my heart with my husband and four daughters. An Emmy Award winning journalist lucky enough to work in television & radio for 20 years - seeing wonderful places, meeting great people and telling their stories.

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    Karl Koniarczyk


    I can tell by the “sincere” smile on Emma’s face that you are a GREAT mother !!! 🙂


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