• CELEBRATING BUFFALO TOGETHER
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    CELEBRATING BUFFALO TOGETHER
    #TOTALLY BUFFALO

 

Getting away, recharging your batteries – and your marriage – is SO important.

Life is so busy. And challenging. And non-stop. And lovely. And tough. And fabulous. And exhausting. Sometimes all in the same day. Or hour.

But, I’m not going to complain.

What I AM going to do – is rest up, re-charge, and re-connect. With myself. And my husband. For me, that is crucial. And, I can tell when it’s necessary. My husband can, too. He’s like that – very perceptive.

So… not too long ago he brought it up.

When he asked if I wanted to take a little getaway, I think I answered before he finished talking! YES! YES! The thing is, I don’t like to be very far away from my little babies. I get anxious. I wish I didn’t, but I just can’t help it. People think I’m nuts – but, it is what it is. So, we stay close to home.

We went to Niagara-on-the-Lake. We met a few friends and had an amazing time. The incredible part is that we felt a million miles away – but of course, it was about an hour drive. Not bad.

It was a chance to be husband and wife, instead of just mom and dad. It was a time to just laugh and be our old care-free selves. Well, as much as we can. Our girls require loads of attention – which is fine – but, it really does take the focus away from other things. Important things. Like romance.

It’s so important not to wait until you’re in a funk before you do something. It’s okay to take a day or so and just spend time with your significant other. Not just okay – but necessary. We made a deal ahead of time – we were off the grid and there’d be no talk of anything stressful. (of course we kept our phones close by in case our girls needed us).

We rented scooters and whipped around town – checking things out. We stayed at The Pillar & Post and took an Uber and shuttle out for a fabulous dinner and drinks. We spent time with our amazing friends – John and Scott – yes, we talked to other adults! We had a wonderful time, knowing our girls were safe and happy.

Which is really what this is all about. Our girls. Scott and I both believe that our marriage should come first. (Please don’t send nasty emails). It’s just how we feel – and not everyone agrees. It’s something we’ve learned over time. We think having a solid, happy marriage is most important for our family. Our girls need to see that. Our girls need us to be happy so that they can know happiness.

We know intuitively that how happy we are — affects our children. Our emotions are contagious, and so when a romantic partner loves us unconditionally, the happiness and security that love brings can spill over. That leads to an incredible gift for our children. Because, the hard truth is – if I’m stressed, they’re stressed. If I’m upset, they’re upset. And yes – if I’m happy – they’re happy.

We are home now, feeling rested and connected. (Giving a million and one kisses to our sweeties). We know the stress of everyday life will catch up with us again, no doubt about it. We will deal with that – down the road.

 

Mary Friona

Mary Friona

Following my heart with my husband and four daughters. An Emmy Award winning journalist lucky enough to work in television & radio for 20 years - seeing wonderful places, meeting great people and telling their stories.

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    Marie

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    Spot on, Mary!

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    Marie

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    You are so right, Mary! And no need for any guilt about leaving the children. You love them enough to know that YOU need to be happy and rested to be the best mom you can be!

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    Tracy Newman

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    Mary you are absolutely right about everything. When my daughter was younger I never wanted to vacation without my daughter and people told me I was nuts. Don’t get me wrong my husband and I took day trips to spend some time alone. But family time is very important. I wanted my daughter to grow up with two loving parents. We are married 26 years now and happier than ever. My daughter just married in November and is carrying on with the values we taught her. I couldn’t be prouder of her.

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    Eileen

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    Totally agree! I never wanted children but I am sooooo busy. If I had another day in the week it wouldn’t be enough. I always have to remind myself to make myself, my significant other a priority because that is truly a priority! It makes one happier & more productive! I used to feel so guilty but now I know what a necessity it is!!!!

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