For women in general, sure. For society, obviously.
But mostly for my daughters. All four of them.
I’ll be honest here – I’m not exactly shocked by the idea of men harassing women. No, not at all.
It’s happened to me – it’s happened to most women I know. It happens.
But to see it so systematically across the board – so often – so blatant – it’s really disheartening.
I think it’s how often, how many men, and some of the things these predators do. It’s sickening.
And they are predators. All of them.
Let me be clear – there is a HUGE difference between a guy making a pass at a girl after maybe getting the signal wrong… or telling a woman she looks beautiful – I don’t think those are the problem – but, that’s me. It can be inappropriate, yes. But there’s a big difference between inappropriate behavior and harassment.
I’ve worked with men and we’ve joked and have likely said MANY inappropriate things over the course of a couple of decades. And I’m sure that there are things I’ve heard, said, and done that others might find inappropriate. This isn’t about me judging anyone.
This is about me – the mama bear – protecting my babies.
I don’t have any boys. I do have a husband that would never, ever treat any woman like that. I know this to be 100% true.
And I have a hope for those raising boys – I hope you will teach them that boys and girls are equals. I feel like that was never instilled in us – I feel like girls were always treated at least a bit – inferior.
It has to stop because that’s really the root of it – men thinking they are superior to women. That’s the issue.
Men thinking they have the power. Of course, not all men believe this – but, the scary truth is that many do.
That’s what I teach my girls. We all have power – we should be treated with respect. I tell them that I will always support them no matter what. I tell my older girls ( and someday will tell the little ones) that if anyone ever pulls that crap with them – they can and should – a) do whatever it takes to get away from them. b) report that person immediately, c) call me.
We will deal with it.
Here’s the thing – when men treat women like some type of object – it does make you feel embarrassed, humiliated – and ashamed. I’ve felt that. It’s a bad feeling.
Let’s think about that for just a moment – the person who is not doing anything wrong – feels ashamed.
Again – the person who is the victim – feels humiliated.
I mean – imagine that with any other crime?
That has to change. Because the fact is – we can’t control how others act. We CAN ONLY control how we react to that action.
And lets be real here – all of these clowns with alleged moral authority are out there making women feel horrible –
Our elected leaders are paying MILLIONS of dollars in hush money for CRIMINAL behavior. That is OUR money! Are you kidding me?
I mean when you sit and think about that and let it actually sink in – it’s unbelievable. Unbelievable.
I feel terrible for those young women, forced to leave their jobs and sometimes careers they love – because some piece of crap thinks he can get away with whatever he wants.
Not any more.
This is a moment that demands an honest and real assessment on where things stand.
Women can not achieve equality in the work place or society for that matter – until there is a reckoning and a taking of responsibility.
This has to end.